Recovery journeys are rarely straightforward, and supporting someone through the roller coaster of relapse and recovery can be draining and disheartening for supporters. But know that relapse is a very common part of recovery and every step forward contributes to their journey of getting well.
Recovery journeys are rarely straightforward, and supporting someone through the roller coaster of relapse and recovery can be draining and disheartening for supporters. But know that relapse is a very common part of recovery and every step forward contributes to their journey of getting well.
People who relapse often face risk factors in the days, weeks, or months leading up to the actual act of relapsing. These usually come in the form of difficult feelings or experiences that challenge their ability to cope with their addictions without their substance of choice. And, the greater the number of risk factors, the higher your risk for relapse.
Recovery is not a one-and-done process, relapse is common, so it is important to take it day by day or even hour by hour when things are tough.
As a supporter, you must set clear boundaries of how you are willing to support your loved one. Common boundaries supporters use include not giving them money, not covering for them, and not waiting if they are late. But feel good about the things you can do, whether that is drive them to appointments, always have a meal for them if they need it, or be there if they need to talk.
Being a supporter of someone with OUD can take its toll. Find a therapist who specializes in substance use counseling, and get support. Loved ones of those who use illicit opioids like fentanyl or heroin need support too. Explore local therapy options and local support groups.
There is a lot of shame associated with relapse, which can stop someone with OUD from talking about it with their loved ones. So it is important always to be empathetic if they do relapse and explain that this is not a failure or the end of recovery, but just part of recovery.
Help your loved one refocus on the big goals they had in mind when they started their journey. Get them to write those down and have them close at hand.
Talk about what triggers them to start using the substance again; understanding the triggers will help them in the future. It could be “that one beer,” or an old friend who uses substances. Being aware will help them in the long term.
The thought of going back through withdrawal can be very daunting for someone with OUD, so talk to them about getting the right medical support. There are now recovery medications that help block cravings and withdrawal symptoms that could help them get back on track. Learn more here.
There is a lot of shame associated with relapse, which can stop someone with OUD from talking about it with their loved ones. So it is important always to be empathetic if they do relapse and explain that this is not a failure or the end of recovery, but just part of recovery.
Help your loved one refocus on the big goals they had in mind when they started their journey. Get them to write those down and have them close at hand.
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These services are supported fully through a State Opioid Response (SOR) grant to the Illinois Department of Human Services, Division of Substance Use Prevention and Recovery from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (TI-081699).
These services are supported fully through a State Opioid Response (SOR) grant to the Illinois Department of Human Services, Division of Substance Use Prevention and Recovery from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (TI-081699).
Recovery is possible with the right help. Explore your treatment options by doing any of the following:
